When Dealing with Guys

So, once again, to all my readers, I'm sorry to have kept you guys waiting, I've just been lazy with it being summer and everything, and to be honest I'm begining to run out of things to write about, so feel free to throw out some suggestion!

A while back, I began to notice that the topics being discussed on my blog are mainly directed towards guys, and recently a new friend of mine suggested that I give girls some more attention, so this post will most definitely be for all my ladies out there!

When Dealing with Guys:

• DON'T put ridiculous restrictions on him: Ladies, lemme just tell you this, you're not his mother, you're his girlfriend, so don't make him feel like he needs to be babysitted or watched over; he's a big boy, he can take care of himself.
  
• If you don't agree with something he does, ie. drugs, don't FORCE your opinions and set boundaries for him and expect him to cooperate. It doesn't work that way. You can't get someone to stop by FORCING it upon them, it's just giving them more of a reason to do it, then lie to you about it; and in the end, you just put it on yourself. If your man does something that you don't agree with, just let him know that it's not something that you particularly like, but because you respect him, you'll respect his choices and understand that he is capable of making his own decisions, and in time if he cares about you, he should respect you enough to take your thoughts and opinions into consideration.
  
• Let him have time to kick it with his homies: There should, more or less, be an equivalent amount of time spent with you and with his friends. Spend some time apart, give him some time to miss you, cus spending every second of every day together begins to take the excitement out of the relationship.
• Don't care too much: There's a lot of you girls out there who will trip over almost anything, it being big or small. Learn to pick you fights, it'll make the relationship a lot easier for the both of you. And to be honest, I hear a lot of praise towards the girlfriends who are "chill", trust me, it's bonus points. No guy is gunna like always having to worry about whether or not his girl is mad at him.
  
• Surprise him!: Whether it's leaving little thoughtful notes on his car, or showing up at his house when his parents aren't home in a sexy cop uniform, a little thoughtful spontaneity is always appreciated;]
• Tomboy attributes can sometimes be a plus: Picking up on activities that are not common to females such as paintballing, cars, organized fighting, contact sports, etc. are often bonus points. Plus, on a scale of 1- 10, if you're at least a 6 or 7, you'll probably look hot with a wrench in your hand, or kicking some other girls ass anyway.
• Be down: Be the girl who's not afraid to have good time, who's not afraid to bust missions and go on adventures, who's not scared of a few bumps and bruises, and who's not too cool to try something new!
• Don't try too hard: When you just "happen" to show up at casual events where you know he's going to be, dressed up to the point where it's almost out of character, trust me, he and everyone who knows you can tell you're trying to impress someone, and it's a turn off when someone's obviously trying too hard, cus it seems desperate.

That's pretty much all I can think of at the moment, but if you have any questions that require answers in more detail, feel free to ask, and I'm happy to answer, I hope this helped!:]

OH! and one last things, ladies, don't pick a guy with qualities you don't find acceptable, ie. drugs, and expect to change him, reality check, IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN, people change if they want to change, you can't expect them to change for you, sure there are exceptions to every rule, but in a general sense, it's not going to happen. If you want a good boy, GO FOR THE GOOD BOY, don't expect to go for a bad boy and change him!

Mkay, The End.

xoxo,
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