Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?

The other day I received a question asking "how come nice guys finish last?" First of all, it's hard to really define what a "bad boy" is and what a "nice guy" is. Second of all, determining "who finishes last" really depends on what phase of life they are currently in, but because my main demographic consists of readers that are, for the most part, within my own age range, I'm sorry to have to say that in this pre-mature phase of life, the nice guys usually end up finishing last.

Now, if you're a guy and you're reading this right now thinking to yourself, "Fuck, I'm a nice guy.. no wonder girls don't like me, I'm just gunna start being an asshole now and get all dabitches!" WRONG. A "bad guy" and a "nice guy" are two extreme opposites of a spectrum, but there's a always a good balance between the two that a lot of guys have a hard time finding.

The Bad Boy: The bad boy usually knows how to play the game, in other words, he's basically a player. What makes a "bad boy" bad isn't necessarily the fact that he's some sort or hoodlum out committing crimes; what makes him "bad" is his reputation. You can be a good boy that goes to church every Sunday, does his homework, and loves his mother, and still be considered a "bad boy", but on the flip side, you ALSO can be the typical bad boy that parties, and drinks, and does drugs etc. My main point here is that there are things that differentiate bad boys from one another, but what they all have in common is their player-like tendencies; a boy that's bad to girls. No, that doesn't mean he beats her or emotionally abuses her, he's just a typical player that plays with girls, simple as that. On the upside, because there is this player-like nature in a bad boy, he usually gets the girl, but on the down side, he can't keep her, and she'll probably end up having feelings of resentment and regret towards him after they're over.

The Nice Guy: Sorry to say, but homeboy has a problem getting girls. The nice guy has no problem being friends with girls, but he usually ends up in the friend zone. The nice guy either doesn't know how to play the game, or doesn't believe in playing them, so instead, his approach is to "be nice" in hopes of being friends with a girl long enough for her to fall for him, but what he doesn't realize that by playing the nice friend role, he's setting himself up for failure. The nice guy can often be a push over and has almost no power as to control the progression of a relationship from platonic to something more, and to be honest, the nice guy can often be portrayed as a "pussy." But don't get me wrong, not ALL nice guys get stuck in the friend zone, the other nice guy's approach is, ideally, to emotionally spoil the girl and shower her with his interpretation of subtle love and affection, but you know what it's really doing? IT MAKES YOU SEEM DESPERATE AND CLINGY. I cannot stress enough to you boys out there to PLAY IT COOL, just chill out for a bit, and don't always make it so apparent that you're into her. The nice guy may not be able to get the girl, but if ever granted the chance to, he for damn sure could keep her, unlike the bad boy.

The Perfect Man: The perfect man, give or take, is the perfect balance between the "bad boy" and the "nice guy." He knows how to play the game, but plays in moderation and uses it to his advantage in a respectable manner, and is a gentleman at heart. He knows how to treat a girl and knows what it takes to make her stay... if only there were such a thing in high school ;]

But for now, we're all still young and immature, and in an immature world, there is no perfect man, only the "bad boy" and the "nice guy", so sorry all you nice guys out there, it's all about the art of the game, and ya'll best get to learnin', and once you do, you might just be the perfect man;]