How to Reject a Guy

Today I received a question on my formspring asking for pointers on how to reject a guy, and I think it's safe to say we've all had our fair share of rejections, some less painful than others, but all together, it's an experience we'll all go through. Being rejected is one thing, but being the one to reject is another, so when I received this question, I knew I had to blog about it because I've witnessed a lot of painful rejections due to the lack of knowledge of how to handle such a situation. So I'm going to help my ladies out with some tips on how to keep it classy, and at the same time get your message across effectively when letting a guy down.

Question: "so how did u eggzactly reject him. cuz im dealing wit the same situation from a guy who i met at the beach that took me on a date. please tell me how u rejected him cuz i need some pointers on how to reject a guy guy but in a classy manner"

• "I'm focusing on school right now.": Girls, boys aren't THAT stupid, so throwing that excuse in their face ain't gunna cut it. I understand that when trying to turn down a guy in the nicest way possible, this probably is the easiest way to go, and to be honest, even I've used it. The truth of the matter is, is that everyone should know that if you like someone enough, you'll make it happen. Whether it's school, family, or some other personal issue, if that person means anything to you, you'll put in that extra effort to be with them.
  
• If you're not feelin' a guy that you've already been on a date with, don't be afraid to let him down, but let him down easy. Dating is to actively survey whether or not a specific individual is compatible to you, so if you've gone on a date and you just don't think that continuing relations with this person is going to work out, he should respect the fact that you just don't have that connection, as long as you're nice about it
• Keep it honest, classy, and get straight to the point: Most guys are kind of slow (sorry but it's true) so sometimes trying to throw out hints isn't going to be very effective. So as harsh as it may seem, sometimes you just gotta lay it out for them, BUT remember, no one likes a bitch, so keep it classy. Let him know that you may think he's a really nice guy, and that he's real cute and all, but you just don't see anything happening between you two, and that you'd rather be honest with him than have him waste his time on you.
  
• If he's blowin' up your phone: Ladies, I understand that when you don't want to talk to a guy, you just DON'T WANT TO TALK TO HIM. So if this guy is blowin' up your phone 24/7 try and be nice but at the same time try hinting to him that you just aren't feelin' him like that and you don't feel like texting him all day. Things like short and/or abrupt replies, "ending responses" (eg. fasho, mkay, alright, lol) basically things that you can't really continue a conversation with. But if this nigga STILL can't take a hint, as mean as it may sound, just stop replying, you can't beat around the bush forever, and nothing makes a more clearer statement than silence.
  
• GUYS, one worded/abrupt response texts MEAN SOMETHING: it means she doesn't want to talk to you, take a hint and give it up already! Shit gets annoying!
• When approached by a stranger: If a guy comes up to you, asking for your number, and you just really don't want to give it to him, please, by all means, be polite. It's bad enough being rejected, but being rejected and humiliated is a million times worse, as if being rejected doesn't already have humiliation all in itself. If a guy is tryna get your number, just smile and politely mention that he seems like a real sweet/nice guy, but you just don't give your number out to strangers.