Q&A: Approaching a Girl in a Group of Friends

Question: hey Lindsey how do I ask this girl out who is always and constantly with her friends like almost 100% of the time, you didn't cover that in your blog, its hard enough to approach girls, but how can I get past this even more difficult obstacle

Answer: There's a huge difference when it comes to approaching girls you don't know at all, and approaching girls that you may know of and may have a crush on but have never had the courage to come up and talk to. The reason for this being that when a girl you approach for the first time knows nothing about you, she has no prior thoughts of you because she doesn't know you! So if by chance you ask her out, you basically get a fresh start to make a good impression, and if it turns out that you're not quite her type, then it's easier on both of you because you guys can easily go back to being strangers and not have to deal with it, which makes your offer more inviting because there are no attachments and nothing to lose. On the other hand, say it's a girl at school that you may have, for a while, admired from afar, and you've finally decided to gather up the courage to ask her out, STOP, and think for a second. First of all, there may be some negative thoughts that she may hold against you, that you may not know of, like you could be that weird guy that sits next to her in math, (not saying you are, just an example) but if that's the case, there's a higher chance of you being shut down. Second of all, in the situation in which you DO get rejected, it's a lot more humiliating for you due to the fact that you probably now have become the guy who asked *Stacy out on a date and got shut down, and everyone's going to have heard about it. And last of all, whether or not you guys actually do go on a date, even if it's just one, you guys still have to see one another everyday at school, and you have no idea how painfully uncomfortable it is.

I personally think that it's extremely risky to ask out a girl you kinda, but don't really know, but again, you never know if things could turn out for the better. But in the case of my anonymous formspringer, I would suggest that you take what I said into deep consideration before you decide on anything. In the event that you do decide to ask her out and she's always surrounded by her friends, just try and find a window of opportunity, like when you see her walking to class alone or something, or you could just go bold with it and approach her within her group of friends and pull her aside, however that's extremely difficult for most guys to do, but it would be the most straight forward and effective way to momentarily get her away from her group of friends. Once you get her alone to talk, be a gentleman, and just use the guidelines I provided in my previous post "How to approach a girl in a public place." Good luck!

-xoxoLVN