Balance of Power

In the continuous struggle for power, ladies, I'm sorry to have to say that we're losing. When I say power, I don't mean power in the real world, I mean emotional power; power in a relationship. Whether you're just dating or in a full blown relationship, it seems like the little games we play never go away, and as much as we want to say that the games begin to fade once the relationship starts getting serious, it doesn't.

Girls are emotional creatures, and guys easily play off our emotions because we let them. They know little tricks to play and little things to say that they KNOW will get under our skin and get a reaction out of us. When it comes down to it, it really is about who caves first, it's about the one who cares enough about the relationship to yield to the other person. It really is true what they say: the person who cares less holds more power. Girls, we need power! And the truth is, is that no guy can take power from you, you give it to him, and whether it's knowingly or not, it's happening. Ideally, there should be an equal balance of power within the relationship, but that's not the case in some situations. Because we're so emotional, it's easier for us to trip over things that they do, and like I mentioned in the post "The Secret" for some reason it makes us like them more.

Ex.: Have you ever been in a situation where your boyfriend/the guy you're dating does something that he expects will make you mad (eg. Blows you off), but he "does it by accident", then when you don't get mad, he's mad that you're not mad! Then you're like WTF mate did you WANT me to be mad??

*Point: Yes, he did want you to be mad, because when you're mad, he wins because you're trippin', and trippin' is an indication that you care, and when you care it means you like him, and it shows, and when you show it, you give him power; and what is it that we all want? POWER. And bitch, you just gave it to him!

So, how do we gain power back? Stop caring, or at least act like it, because chances are if this guy likes you enough, he's going to see that you don't care, and he's gunna start trippin' himself, and he's going to make it his mission to MAKE you care, and what happens when he's trippin'? He's giving you power, and that's a goood thing;]

And to all my ladies out there who "play it like a guy" kudos to you, cus you know how to play the game;]

Playing it like a guy is basically everything I mentioned above, but the roles are switched so that the girl is the "guy in the relationship"