Question: "Hey Ive been reading your blogs. i have a question, how should a guy approach a girl they see that appeals to them in places like the mall or the street. thank =)"
So, let me first bring up an example, then the advice will follow.
A few months ago, I was approached in a parking lot as I was leaving the gym. A guy ran up to me and asked me, very politely, if I would be willing to go on a date with him. At first I said no, but this guy was such a gentleman, and asked so sweetly and genuinely that I felt like he deserved a chance. He eventually persuaded me to agree, so I gave him my number and we ended up going on a date two weeks later. Let me just mention that this guy wasn't a super good looking guy either, so it wasn't his looks that convinced me to go out with him, it was purely due to the manner in which he approached me. Plus, it takes a lot of courage just to walk up to a girl knowing the risk of being turned down, and doing it anyway.
The reason I mentioned the example above was to show you guys that you can approach a girl you don't know and there's always a chance she might respond positively if you play your cards right. Of course not all girls are nice, and there are some out there who'll be a bitch about it, but in a larger sense, most girls will try to be polite about it, and the worst they can do, really, is say no. So, with that in mind, here comes the advice portion:
How to approach a girl in a public place:
- Don't blatantly holler: Yelling things like "damn, ma" or "hey sexy" is not going to get you anywhere. No girl is going to respond positively to a guy that she thinks is just looking at her like a piece of meat. Plus it's just rude and disrespectful.
- Don't be cocky about it: If you're a good-looking guy who knows he can get a girl, don't be comin up to us with that kind of attitude like you already know we're going to say yes. You already have your looks, so don't ruin it with your personality, because chances are, even if we do think you're cute, we'll say no just because we don't want to give you the satisfaction.
- Be polite: Enough said.
- It's okay to be nervous, and show it: Real talk, if a girl sees how nervous you are when you approach her, her first reaction is going to be to smile, I guarantee it; first off because she's flattered that she makes you nervous in that way, and second of all.. that shit's pretty damn cute, not gunna lie. And even though we see that you're nervous, we know that it takes a lot of courage and confidence to approach us
- DO NOT get your friends to holler for you: Seriously, stuff like that is so junior high, and it makes you look like a coward that can't handle his business. If you want to get a girl, man up and do it yourself, and trust me, we'll respect that you've got enough balls to walk up to a girl and put yourself out there like that
- Throw in a few subtle compliments: Every girl likes compliments, so if you think she's pretty, don't be afraid to let her know, but emphasis on the word subtle. Don't shower her with compliments and continuously tell her how gorgeous you think she is, because truth is, it's cheesy, and it makes you look desperate and dramatic.
- Don't give up right away: If you approach the girl, and the first thing you say to her is "Hi, I think you're pretty, can I get your number?" I'm not gunna lie, unless you're God's gift to women, there's a good chance we'll either be hesitant to say yes or just say no all together. But don't give up right away, sell it! Make her feel like if she agrees, she won't be tied down to anything, that it's completely casual and that you're the kind of guy worth getting to know. Like I mentioned in my example, when the guy asked me out the first time, I said no, but he was able to change my mind by doing almost everything I mentioned above!
- Know when to give up: If you've tried your best, was a complete gentleman, and she still says no, don't push it. Keep it classy, thank her for her time and just walk away, sorry, maybe next time:T
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